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I am curious about what seems to be a new sexual phenomema, men's increasing desire for (just) handjobs!
(First, this is about vacation sex, so please be mindful of that. Vacations are VERY sexually stimulating for me, and this was my first real "alone" vacation since before Katrina)

I do this (handjobs) now and again, it's a friendly, sexy act, and relatively safe for me, the woman. Maybe one or two in a month. More like 7-8 a year.

I have done this 6 or 7 times, in the last 9 days.
The first was a reasonable situation, I met someone, we danced, made out, both of us got very hot, but he admitted previous male to male sexual contact. He assured me he was tested and safe, but I have a personal rule, "not with bi men."
(please do not judge me harshly, I came to this decision mostly due to the numbers of people I fuck. Avoiding this risk issue entirely seemed wise)

As I am NOT a tease, we were able to pleasure one another manually, and safely. (and messily, but these things happen)
I do a fair job, I think, giving a handjob. No one's ever complained, (not since I turned 16 anyway) but I am not a "star". I try to make it interesting for my partner, using a dab of handcream from my purse, adding some special kises and licks, (mouth, nec, ears and nipples) and I keep his hands on me, allowing him to go pretty much where ever he want to go, and have mostly been successful.

In the next 8 days, with other men, "straight" men, I was asked at least 5, maybe 6, more times for the same thing!
That I am aware of, there was no conection between these men, so I don't think I am not the victim of gossip, and in each case I was specifically asked to do it. Yes I also performed other (to me) more intimate act with some of these men.

Giving handjobs is not my preferred activity. It's kind of boring for me, requires a lot more concentration, my hand and wrist usually hurt later, and I miss the feeling of intimacy (and control) that oral sex or intercourse offers.

Is something changing, maybe a new "safe sex" concept?

Or is this just a statistical abnormality?

Or maybe I have not gone on enough vacations recently.

WW

WW~ I have been noticing this trend to, but from and observer's perspective :p (unfortunately) :D

I know that I adore being fingered. Especially when done in a teasing, slow way. I find it almost more sexual than sex at times. I wonder if being given a handjob allows men more freedom of movement (less balancing and the like), more visual opportunities and a feeling of being pleasured as opposed to being an equal participant. Is it maybe a control thing as well???

I had no idea....but I think I'd like to brush up on my handjob techniques! I've never been particularly schooled in this art...anyone want to teach me? ;)

I had the same thought, but do men feel that they are being pleasured more with a handjob as opposed to a blow job?

Men are such odd creatures.

"WW~ I have been noticing this trend to, but from and observer's perspective :p (unfortunately) :D"

By the way, love.
The answer to your problem?
Next time you're asked, say yes.

(sorry, couldn't resist)

Kisses and hugs, sweetie

WW

I think we both need more vacations. ;)




I can't speak for anyone else (and don't give a care what motivates them) but it would make sense that the added concerns of the last two decades makes any casual encounters take on new cautions. This would fit into today's world if you are seeing a trend, but your stated abrupt recent succession does seem odd.

'Manual' pleasuring of your partner (as you put it) can be a very exciting and fulfilling thing but only when it is 'mutual', for me. Normally I find mutual voyeur/exhibition something I enjoy where there is a comfort/familiar relationship already established. Doing this to and/or for each other along with some mild restraints can be very fulfilling for both partners.

If you happen to have an oral-freak partner (rolleyes2)...... we often incorporate this and toys to make for a mutually rewarding time but mutual masturbation and a quick hand-job are two different things in my book.

I have heard it theorised that we live in a masturbatory culture these days. The combination of HIV awareness, increased access to pornography and the internet, cell phones and text messages means we are more likely to have a 'chance sexual encounter' from a distance which involves masturbation than ever before.

Perhaps men are becoming more comfortable with this form of sexual contact. I think it's also becoming more common in pornography too (just see how many 'POV handjob' type websites are out there.

Finally, there may have been a time when this kind of sexual encounter was considered somehow adolescent (the kind of things teenagers do in the backs of cars) however it seems that these days teenagers graduate straight to oral sex, intercourse, even anal exploration. Perhaps the pleasure of manual stimulation is something that men are opening up to again.

I'd love to join you on your next vacation - and you can do whatever you want to me... :)

I volunteer...anytime. :69:

(hand goes up)

From a male point of view, it's approaching perfect sex. Performance expectations devolve to orgasm/no orgasm, there is little chance of an unplanned pregnancy from the direct act and the STI risk primarily involves dermtitis.

osuche, you say the nicest things.

I need to take some international classes. :D Say an "around the world" handjob class. Any other Pixie ladies want to join me? We'll start in the US and work our way outwards....pleasing men everywhere we travel!

Well I for one, would like to somehow manage to be in every city you go on your world tour....:hot: :slurp:

Remember...I need practice. :rofl:

Your penis might not like the travel schedule and training plan. :bite:

If it's all the same to you, we'll both take the risk.... :x:

I think "anomaly" might be the word you were groping for...


...oops, did I say that out loud?...

...anyway, I see nothing "abnormal" about a handjob...but we need a lot more data before we can conclude that it's a statistical anomaly...you need to give lots more handjobs, & get us some pics while you're at it...

....for study purposes, of course...
:x:

Keeping the syllabus at your fingertips?

*blush*
 

Well... it was, actually.
I mean, I DO know the difference, and I MEANT to type anomaly, and thought that I DID type anomaly...

Anyway, I am not sure what the sudden increase in handjobs is all about, maybe it's a transitory thing... "a new good idea".

But then, I also remember when digital watches were thought to be a good idea...

(anyone want to guess what book I took along to read?)

me, me, me!!!
 

Send me a PM when you hit London, Osuche!

and, of course...
 

As a schoolboy I remember exchanging giggles and digs in the ribs when, in a geography lesson, we came across (whoops, unintended pun) a mining town in South Africa called Wankie. I think you should make sure it's on the tour...

Portnoy's Complaint?

I absolutely love a slow, languid, teasing handjob. Whether or not I cum is not up to me, but literally in your hands. I love a constant flow of dialogue where you're murmuring to me about how hard I feel; how you can feel my pulse through my cock; how you can see my stomach tense up when I'm getting close to orgasm...and how it relaxes when you're backing off.

And when I cum, wow! I love when you squeeze it tight when I squirt, or when you apply continuous slow strokes throughout the climax.

There's nothing like a handjob. Part of it is the sexual stimulation, and the rest is definately being under someone's control. :hot:

I was wondering when he ^^^ was going to get his ass in here. :p

It wasn't his ass I was expecting to pop up.

*sigh*
 

No.
"Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy"
A fun, silly, satirical book.

WW

Aye, that it is. :nod:

Wanda

There are 3 1/2 other books in the series.

I knew the answer to that as soon as you said something about digital watches.

To be honest I don't know about the handjob thing. While I'm not that experienced with other partners I have discovered that noone gives me a handjob like I give myself a handjob. Sure it's pleasurable when my wife does it but there are other things I'd much prefer to be doing.

Now I wanna lay down and have her kneel next to me so she can stroke my cock while leaning over me with her :boobs: in my face...teasing my tongue with her nipples. :hot:



Did I mention wanting to be tied up at the time. :D

I know, I just prefer starting at the begining...
I'm funny that way.

((HUGS))) Oldfart

I read them all years ago, and just felt like reading them again.

I still want to know more about other's experiences with handjobs...

WW

While perhaps not my preferred activity, I love giving handjobs!!! While true that it requires a lot more concentration, I disagree with what you say about missing the feeling of intimacy and control. I find that I can devote my whole attention to him rather than being distracted, so that I am aware of every little reaction my touch incites in him : every shiver, gasp, moan, even the slightest tensing up of his muscles. This awareness means that I have control over him, over what he feels, over when he cums. For me, to be able to see, feel and hear the effect I have on him like that is deeply intimate.

i confess i love hand jobs. Especially when involving baby oil :)... and maybe some anal play.

I still like full sex... a lot, so i guess i am 50/50. Either way i would not be complaining :)

I could see handjobs being very stimulating, especially from a random hottie. They are a good thing of course, but I confess to a love of blow jobs more. I mean of course i would not turn down a hand job. But to me a blow job is just more stimulating.

may be the guy's asking for hand job's last longer

That's something that I've never really experienced. Can't say it's not something I haven't always wanted to try though. Just seems to be that the women I've been with would rather just "get on with things" or something, not really sure. A few ladies have started with them but didn't follow through to completion. That's ok though, I don't recall ever complaining that things progressed. ;)

It is sort of odd when I think about it though because I've very prone to using both my tongue and fingers on a woman to bring her to orgasm before moving along to other things. Guess perhaps I just haven't found the woman who is adventurous enough yet. Perhaps I should advertise on CraigsList. :rofl:

I checked through all the responses and I'm surprised it wasn't mentioned that maybe these string of men you encountered where married or otherwise involved in a relationship already.

Some men don't consider it "cheating" if they don't have actual intercourse.

Could it be that they were all "taken" but tempted anyway?

That's strange Iowaman - I wouldn't dream of giving a BJ without using my hands as well - to me, that's HOW you do it. To be honest, a BJ usually turns into an HJ with Fussy since he doesn't usually cum from oral stimulation (I can't move my mouth quick enough without killing my back and splitting my lips!).

i agree it's a trend that illustrates people are hip to the need to be careful when having unprotected sex with unknown people.

er... that is, i would probably agree that it's a trend i've noticed if i were in the market for unprotected sex with unknown people, but alas i am not :D

but oh how i love to stroke a cock. the shaft extra, extra, EXTRA slippery. my fingers running over every ridge - slurping, wet noises that make the sloppiest blowjobs sound tame. forearm burning with exertion. the crown rolling into my palm like a greased steel bearing. heavy sac weighed and cupped and held. his head pressed into the pillow, his lips pressed white, his body tense and restless on the bed, his fists that gather the sheets for something to hold onto before he flies apart. and with my mouth empty, i’m free to talk … talk dirty, that is. :D

and (the best part) i’m in the perfect place to watch alllll the action.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I love handjobs. :loveshowe

Are you sure? :faint:

Are we approaching a time when the predominant STD is dermatitis?