I think we both need more vacations.




I can't speak for anyone else (and don't give a care what motivates them) but it would make sense that the added concerns of the last two decades makes any casual encounters take on new cautions. This would fit into today's world if you are seeing a trend, but your stated abrupt recent succession does seem odd.

'Manual' pleasuring of your partner (as you put it) can be a very exciting and fulfilling thing but only when it is 'mutual', for me. Normally I find mutual voyeur/exhibition something I enjoy where there is a comfort/familiar relationship already established. Doing this to and/or for each other along with some mild restraints can be very fulfilling for both partners.

If you happen to have an oral-freak partner (rolleyes2)...... we often incorporate this and toys to make for a mutually rewarding time but mutual masturbation and a quick hand-job are two different things in my book.

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