There will be a reason your wife is that way, she may not understand it herself.

I have no sex drive, and havent for a while now. When i say none, i mean i do not even feel the need to do for myself either. Not in the least interested.
I know what basically what is behind my loss of drive and am trying to do something about it. BUT, let me say. Being told you have to have sex just because the male needs it does not make sex any more appealing, in fact you learn to dread it even more.
I am not doing it as a power leverage, regardless of what some may say, i am just as helpless in the situation as my long term partner is.

Not trying to lessen you side (male side) but be aware there is another side too.

Your not dealing with just a fanny for you to fuck. You are dealing with a woman who is, to me, obviously dealing with her own stuff. You can either try to help her deal or move on.

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