when my second wife called it quits i went online, met someone, hooked up with them, didn't quite jell but had some fun sex anyway. the next weekend i tried again and been with her for close to 2 years (really? wow that's longer than either marriage lol). as far as being treated like a whore (not sure how to put this) hmmm wasn't there a song "i'm a whore/i'm a lover/i'm a mother" basically isn't that a facet a womenhood? i've never dated a woman a second time who didn't enjoy sex the first time. way i see it is if men and women are equals than all that matters is if you enjoyed yourself. if you start looking for more than enjoyment in the beginning gonna bang head off many walls. let it grow if/when it's there. just my 2 cents

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