I think (IMHO) that s&m or bdsm means something different to everyone. As Lilith pointed out it's all about communication. Talk to your partner about what excites you and what excites them. A nice start may be some light bondage silk scarves, pantyhose or some soft rope ( I have always had a fondness for silky drape cord type or material that can be found at a fabric store or a home renovations store) or some light spankings with your hand. But above all communication is the key.

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Would you cater to every fantasy I've got? Would you hose me down with holy water if I get to hot? Can you take me places I've never known?

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