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Originally posted by ChinesePussy
but i can never find a picture that i can put as my wallpager that is handsom and NUDE
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CP,
I've posted many nude pics on this site. I can't do much for the handsome part, but I'm definitely nude!
But there's not a chance in hell I'm going to send you any pics, now that you've told me what you're going to do with them.
You're getting far too worked up about who's "Right" and who's "wrong". This is a marriage, not a competition!
You say you're mad at him for looking at asian porn after he'd promised he wouldn't. This means TALK, not war! You need to discuss what you expect from him and what he expects from you, and why he feels looking at asian porn is ok, and why you don't.
But making him jealous? How is that helpful?
My suggestions:
* Deal with your insecurities. Listen when he tells you he loves you - because he does! Surely it's far better for him to look at porn on the web than have an affair with someone you know? If he were sleeping with someone else, you'd have every right to be jealous and angry - and yes, some revenge might be allowable then. But that's not happening - you have a great husband who loves you very much, and even though he may look at other women - yes, even Asian women! - he is still married to you, isn't he? He still comes home to you, doesn't he? He still makes love to you, doesn't he?
* Understand that a happy marriage doesn't have partners TRYING to hurt each other, TRYING to make each other jealous, TRYING to fight a war with each other! If there's a problem, you HAVE to solve it by talking. Getting angry and looking for revenge is NOT going to work! By trying to hurt him, you end up hurting yourself first, and your marriage second.
What do you expect him to do when he sees a nude man as his wallpaper? Do you think he'll say "Oh, CP is trying to tell me something, I should stop looking at Asian porn like she wants"? Is that what you're hoping to get?
What I think will most likely happen - and forgive me, I don't know your husband or yourself very well at all - I think he'll get angry, or at least very annoyed. But if anything, he'll look at MORE Asian women, just to make YOU jealous! And you'll end up each trying to make the other jealous. STOP IT!!!
I'm sorry if I sound like I'm bullying you, CP - I don't mean to. But I seriously think you need to think about what you're trying to achieve and how you're going about it.
Good luck, my thoughts, heart and prayers are with you.
CasperTG