I say that it's not 1859, and the idea of what a Lady should be went out when corsets stopped being a normal peice of undergarment that all women wore.
High maitenance vs low maitenance is personal preferance for both men and women, I would think.
For dates and who pays, I would think that the person doing the asking should be paying. If that's the girl, then why should the guy pay if she's willing to? Going dutch for a date would be a HUGE mega no-no in my book. It insults the person who did the asking if the date wants to go dutch, and it insults the date if the asker insists.
Opening your own doors isn't so much the ladies fault as it is mens, in my oppinion. We weren't raised having doors opened for us, so why should we wait around expecting it now? Men just don't do it anymore, and those who do are rare.
We taught our son from the get-go that he is supposed to hold the door open, and say "Ladies First". It's cute when he does it.
But, alas, I would say that only about 1 in 50 boys today are told to do that, and out of that number, maybe only half do it regularly. It's the way we, as a culture, were raised. It's both male and female. The men don't do it, and the women don't expect it.
Getting ready time... such a double standard. If we take longer than the man, and they have to wait, we're too high maitenance, and they get annoyed. If we are ready before them, we obviously don't care much about our apperance, and there fore, we're not high enough for them. I won't even get into that.
Taking the lead in bed... that's not a sign of maitenence value. It's a sign of who likes what in bed. Some men prefer to be dominant, while others want a women to be dominant.
Overall, this guy sounds like what he ideally would want, is a house wife from 1935 who will cook his meals, lay passive in bed, and be ready and immaculate looking when he insists on going on a date.
Ok, really, he just wants a slightly old fashioned girl. A girly girl. A beauty salon girl.