GingerV: Thank you for giving me a little different perspective. What you have said makes a lot of sense. It is a difficult situation for the kids, and i have told them that there mom is there mom and no one else is trying to replace them. I suppose that in her mind that i have replaced her and am trying to have her take over as mom to the kids. I have tried telling her that she is always going to be there mom and that i have no intentions of taking that away from her. Although she has tried to do that to me. What frustrates me is no matter what i say or do, it is always taken and twisted into anything close to the truth, so i don't say anything to her. I hope that you are right and that time will smooth this out, cause frankly it is not a lot of fun for anyone.