I have been mulling over this the past day or so too. I noticed a few women who I consider strong and in control have this "rape" fantasy although I don't really think of it as rape - only used for lack of a descriptive word for that particular fantasy. I wondered why they would have this fantasy as it is usually connotated with violence and hate toward women and not pleasure...

LOL - ok, I know - sometimes I think too much. Then from that thought my mind considered it more of a "control" issue. Basically what you said Lil, being led, not actually forced, to do something that you wouldn't normally do and not be in control of the situation yet be excited by it. Very similar to being totally dominated without the violence.

I also think, like you Lil, that it is about not being responsible for what you do and how you react. In a normal situation, a woman may not be interested in being tied up, but given a dominating "rape" situation, she may find herself excited about it and it is ok to react that way because it wasn't a decision that she made, but was led to do.

I have a MFM fantasy - I am at a party and am "cornered" by a man in a secluded area where no others would be or go and suddenly another man appears and I can't get away, and they both have their way with me. I give into my fantasy and yet am safe because it really wasn't me who decided initiate it and yet I enjoy it.

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