Well, Lilith,
I am like you in the same way. the difference is that I am gay in a rural town and I don't care what people think. If a conversation is struck up that includes the subject of sex-of any kind I have an opinion. I think that sex of all kinds is good...theraputic and natural. It is not something to be condemned or pushed under a rug! Unfortunately, people in the United States especially seem to be so "hung up" about anything sexual that it becomes taboo to even have "unpure thoughts" BULLSHIT! I do not care if some one is offended-IF the subject has been brought up in mixed company..my friends/aquaintances know what they are in for...if you disagree (they know) you can shut up and /or leave.And as far as inappropriate places.(minors..church..) I would hope the people involved are also considering those factors. You seem like a good person..don't let other people make you feel bad about your opinions..or need to express them.