07-01-2002, 08:59 AM
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Pixies Den Mother
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: No-Hockey Land, dammit!!
Posts: 11,897
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I think although I was called plenty of names in school, the worst name I have ever been called is "a terrible mother". This was from my then-17yo son during an argument over the fact he was seeing a girl that was nearly 21 and had, for his 17th b'day, given him a 5th of Vodka!! 
Although I knew there was NO validity to his claim, this hurt me very, very deeply. I began questioning and second-guessing everything I had done while raising my sons. Eventually it caused me to go into a depression.  (I'm fine now.)
We talked about it a few years later and he told me that he never meant it and only said it in anger. I wish I had realized that right away. I really should have too. But I couldn't help wondering if he really believed it...and if so what had I done or not done that was so bad. I did the best I could with the resources I had available to me at the time. I could do no more.
We have settled this and it's OK now. He's really a very fine young man of 22 now.  |