Nope...We're not talking cars here.... We're talking women.

Simple questions -- mostly targeted to the guys, although womens' opinions are also appreciated:

Is it possible to be too low-maintenance to your spouse/SO? Would a low-maintenance SO still earn your respect? Do you prefer your SO to be high maintenance, and if so why?


A friend told me the other day that I was too low maintenance for a woman. He said he'd never date a woman who: (1) opened her own doors, (2) offered to pay for dinner, (3) liked to take the lead in bed, (4) got ready faster than him in the morning (I take about 10 minutes), (5) and had no problems being blunt. Said a lady shouldn't act this way.

What do you think? Does a more demanding woman create mystique? Make you feel like you had to work hard and thus conquered?

I'd be interested in your thoughts.

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I don't mind a woman who opens her own doors, as long as we're not going to a restaurant or formal gathering. Hell, if she offers to pay, I'd let her. Just not all the time. I like a woman taking the lead, maybe not all the time, but sometimes is good. If she gets ready faster than me, great. Less time I have to spend waiting. Being blunt is great. honesty is nice, even if you don't like what you're hearing.

I say it depends on the Lady............if she likes having doors opened........and her meals paid for....ect..

I enjoy doing these thing for her....................BUT, I guess the bottom line is.........I'll go along with what makes her comfortable

but, I do enjoy treating a Lady like a Lady

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Low maintenance for me.

I love opening doors for women, picking up the check and all of that, but what your freind says he would never date sounds like an ideal woman to me. One that can think for herself and take care of herself. I don't want someone to be dependant on me, I want a partner.

A more demanding woman doesn't create more mystique, just more headaches. I don't want to conquer anyone, let alone the woman I'm going to spend my life with.

Personally I see the view of women as conquests to be unhealthily egotistical and not exactly conducive to happiness. I'm looking for a friend, lover, etc, not a chance to prove my courting and seduction skills. Also, I doubt that I would become close to a woman who expected on principle for me to pay, open every door, etc. on the basis that that is my role as a man.

If she demanded affection and attention though, that is another matter

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slow ride.. I like your way of thinking. (((((kisses)))):heart:

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I've always wanted.. a lower maintence girl. All of my previous ones being high maintence. or so i thought at least.. Until i really sat back and looked it over. and looked over all the times where i figured it was them being difficult and bitchy. when it really was me just... being annoying. or too worried..

and i found out that i'm really the high maintence person. =/ it takes alot to keep me.. satisfied. i was going to say happy. but im always happy. Satisfied is the better termination.

So yea.. I confess, its hard to keep me satisfied, both sexually and well I hope you all can connect with this but. In.. a relationship setting. Where your together with someone. and the fact of being with someone. I got this thing about being around people.. and being with someone =/ i can be a bit overbearing.. .. like i can assess my feelings very quickly and know exactly who someone is. i'm a very quick judge of character normally and i understand how people think. so with that said.. i attach myself rather quickly. and then i unknowningly push myself upon someone. Its.. a bad thing =/. i think its just.. me.. But its mainly. because i see things and understand how i feel. I i think i skip the part in the relationship where we are supposed to build those feelings up and what not. and i go right into it as if we had been dating for awhile.

if yall can understand that at all =/ sorry for my ramblings..

shutting up now

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I've been told I am low maintenence. I'd prefer to think of it as non-demanding. I'm not a shopaholic (you'd know this if you could see my "wardrobe") and I don't "expect" anything from the men in my life...ie: opening doors, paying for meals, etc. If that's how the evening goes, so be it. If not, so be it! I'm easy...but I'm not cheap! I'd say I'm more...inexpensive! LOL!

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Thank you CGT...........*kisses* I should have mentioned that I like I Lady that likes to tease a little,and likes to be teased a little.

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I have never had the opportunity to be "high maintenence" and have always had to do for myself. I'm not sure how I would act having someone to want to do for me, but it would be worth a shot..lol

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To clarify, I wouldn't mind opening doors or paying a reasonable amount of the time, but I'd do it because I liked or loved her, not because it's "my duty as a man". So any woman who just expected out of hand that I do those things would probably be disappointed.

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Hmmmm.... While I easily do all of the things that the ladies above say are traits of a low maintenance woman, I consider myself very high maintenance.

Have you ever tried to figure out when and how to open doors for a woman who is used to opening her own? Or how does it tax you when she holds it open for you?

Pay for 1/2? No I'm likely to pay all.

Once I make a decision about what the hell I am going to wear, 10 minutes tops. But no one had best be in my way when I'm getting ready.

Blunt...lol, can you imagine how difficult it can be to live with someone who does not hold back?

My expectations are high. But not about doors or $$ etc. I expect the people around me to be kind courteous, respectful. I expect you to give your all in every damn thing you do. I expect you to care for yourself.

I personally think maintenance is in the eye of the beholder. If you are someone who needs constant reassurance of someone's affection then to me, you may be high maintenance. If you are obsessed about things like how your house is kept, how you are to be treated, being an attention whore, time to do your own things be it shopping, going to the gym, going out with friends, etc., at the constant expense of the people who live with and love you, then to me you may be high maintenance.

To me it's about someone who puts their needs and feelings above those of the people around them. I am the only female in a house full of men and I think that has a lot to do with why I feel I am high maintenance. In comparison to the people I live with, I am.

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I consider myself low maintenence as well...I paint my nails like twice a year, I wear my hair long so I don't have to "do" it. I like comfort over fashion. I am independent so I open my own doors etc... I really think that if that bothers a potential dating partner, that they just aren't right for you. Be true to yourself and the right fit comes along. My ex, slowly made me dependent on him for many things, it tore away at the very fiber of my being. I lost alot of confidence, began to forget who I was. I was slyly controlled and kept in "my place" w/out even realizing it until it was too late. I always considered myself independent, intelligent and beyond being in that type of relationship. So it came as quite a shock when I was actually able to see it for what it was! That being said, the real me is back, baggy clothes and all! Me in all my casual glory! Thats not to say that I don't like to get all dolled up and girly when the mood strikes!

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LILith, I agree with you. I think I've earned the right to be high maintenance. I do more than my share. If you want me to act like a lady then you damn well better treat me like one!

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I say that it's not 1859, and the idea of what a Lady should be went out when corsets stopped being a normal peice of undergarment that all women wore.

High maitenance vs low maitenance is personal preferance for both men and women, I would think.

For dates and who pays, I would think that the person doing the asking should be paying. If that's the girl, then why should the guy pay if she's willing to? Going dutch for a date would be a HUGE mega no-no in my book. It insults the person who did the asking if the date wants to go dutch, and it insults the date if the asker insists.

Opening your own doors isn't so much the ladies fault as it is mens, in my oppinion. We weren't raised having doors opened for us, so why should we wait around expecting it now? Men just don't do it anymore, and those who do are rare. We taught our son from the get-go that he is supposed to hold the door open, and say "Ladies First". It's cute when he does it. But, alas, I would say that only about 1 in 50 boys today are told to do that, and out of that number, maybe only half do it regularly. It's the way we, as a culture, were raised. It's both male and female. The men don't do it, and the women don't expect it.

Getting ready time... such a double standard. If we take longer than the man, and they have to wait, we're too high maitenance, and they get annoyed. If we are ready before them, we obviously don't care much about our apperance, and there fore, we're not high enough for them. I won't even get into that.

Taking the lead in bed... that's not a sign of maitenence value. It's a sign of who likes what in bed. Some men prefer to be dominant, while others want a women to be dominant.

Overall, this guy sounds like what he ideally would want, is a house wife from 1935 who will cook his meals, lay passive in bed, and be ready and immaculate looking when he insists on going on a date. Ok, really, he just wants a slightly old fashioned girl. A girly girl. A beauty salon girl.

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