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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

Prophet!!!!!! Oh hun........I love you!

I'm of the belief that there is someone for EVERYONE! Being a "nice guy" does not make or break you...........it's just who you meet.................and your preconceived expectations of them before you even get to know them.

And.......once you get to know them.........your expectations might change.......but then, so might theirs. Don't judge everyone in one fell swoop!

I have no room to talk in the "be patient" department........but it's sound advice none the less. I've noted patience as a virtue in many people but myself.............and it's pretty becoming!

I guess what I am saying is..........You're worth it.......so be patient!

*hugs n kisses*

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Minds are like parachutes. They only work when they are open.

~Thomas Dewar~

Being a nice guy is a curse I think. You're considerate of their feelings and they perceive it as uncaring. When you're slow to ask, it's uninterested. I can honestly see a lot of opportunities that passed me by just because I was "too nice" to just ask. Be patient and find the girl of your dreams? It's a beautiful thought but it's the hardest advice to take. I think even harder when you realise what wonderful people are here, just out of reach.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

I tend to agree that nice guys often get the shitty end of the stick.

many women go for the flashy sort of guys and end up finding that a steady decent man is what they want in the long run.

Strange isn't it

I have very close female friends and relatives, along w/myself, who most definitely want and are looking for nice guys. There has to be some kind of physical attraction between you and another person, I think, but I would say that no matter how great the outside of the package, we are not interested if, when that cover is peeled away, a nice guy isn't underneath.

I understand just how frustrating it is; you nice guys are saying you can't find women who want you; we nice women are saying that we can't find any nice guys who want more than just a roll in the hay. We love sex just as much as the next person--maybe even more (smile)--but we want more than just a sexual relationship; we want a deeper relationship in which all of our love and caring can come into play--giving and receiving. PLENTY of us don't give a damn if a guy doesn't look like Mr. Universe and isn't rich like Bill Gates. And we DO want someone who'll treat us well, not like shit.

Be sure you're not just looking at those "gorgeous" types or you may miss some real gems. However, if you ARE willing to give those of us w/less than perfect covers a chance, I know that we're often out of reach due to distance, age gaps, etc. I realize it's darned frustrating at times.

I sure hope you will keep trying, Prophet Reality, because there truly are plenty of us "nice females" out here who are looking hard for someone just like you.

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Communication is the key.

Oh how I would love to hear that from You and then some

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Don't forget to stop and smell the roses *S* @};-

OK...I am going to add my own personal spin here.

I DO like nice guys...but just because you're a nice guy doesn't mean you have to be a wallflower. I like men who show me that they are interested in me -- in a nice way (of course).

Just like advertising, there is too much mental stimulation out ther for most average people. Thus, it takes some gumption and imagination to catch my interest and attention. However, after you get it...you are evaluated on whether you are a "nice guy" with compatible interests. If oyu are, you're in.

However...it starts with a little bit of forwardness...

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

Thanks Lixy!

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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

I totally agree with you on the judging a cover. I have been judged way too many times by my appearance, and thus not given a chance. Now granted I am not looking for a beauty model, I am looking for a real woman. Which means I would like for her to have some meat on her bones.

And if your looking for a nice guy, well there seem to be a few on here. At least that have responded, and I am sure that there are plenty that have not. Or you can just cum and get me.

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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

Name the place and the time baby!!!!!!

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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

What's worse is that it's always the nice guys who become the designated drivers, and so they don't get to drink anything (and I'll only dance if I've had a couple beforehand :P ), AND they have to be extra nice to the people on the way home (don't speed, don't take turns too hard, etc.), lest they have to clean up any mess left in the car, if you get my drift and I think you do.

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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

Or she goes off with the co-worker seated next to you because he's had a few too many and any nice guy pretenses he's dropped already! :P

*sigh*

Can't help but laugh, a little though.

You can still be a nice guy and go after what you want. You don't have to be sad-sacks about it because you haven't been able to assert yourself in any given situation.

There is a difference between being a nice guy and an introvert. Quit being a victim!!! Decide what you want and go get it!!!

Speaking for myself, I like the nice guy, but I don't like the nice guy who doesn't have any balls....

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A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults.

Cheyanne -- I agree completely!

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney