OK....So here's a poll question for ya.


When I was younger, I believed firmly that the first orgasm was just to get things moving along. After the first time he came, he could focus on me better and we could have some *really* hot sex.

Typical scenario: I'd tease him with my tongue for a bit, then I'd slide on top of him and ride him hard to an orgasm. Since it takes a while for me to get in the groove, his first orgasm was a good way to get me all tingly and ready for more. THEN the good stuff could happen ~~ more licking, teasing, exploring, and (eventually) cumming. By the end of a night of good sex, I expected him to have cum 2 or 3 times and me the same. But it always started with him having an orgasm.

However....as we age, I find that I sometimes get gypped in this scenario. After orgasm #1 he has very little energy left and basically the night is over. I feel frustrated and somewhat sad. I think I need to change my routine to something that doesn't involve him cumming first. But it takes so long for me to cum without that first hard ride that we both get frustrated.

So......what do I do?

Poll question asks if you like having a good hard orgasm first before a longer session. But I'd also like you to weigh in with comments about what works for you.

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